Ten Ways To Fall In Love With Yourself

Sounds corny, I know. But when you sum up the amount of time you put yourself last and put others first, ask yourself, how much do I really love myself? Self-hate is a real thing and putting yourself last is also a real thing. It seems unimportant until you sum up your entire life and realize, that you never treat yourself with the love and respect you should or that you give to others. So, if you know, you know, and if you don’t, then you most likely think falling in love with yourself is corny, foolishness, and new-age nonsense. If you know, you know that falling in love with yourself is one of the greatest realizations and intentional things you could ever do for yourself as a human being.

If you know, you know that being intentional about loving yourself and treating yourself with love, grace, and compassion not only improves your life but also enhances your relationships with others. If you know, you know that falling in love with yourself is not a gimmick or a catchphrase or marketing sensationalism, but it’s an opening to accessing a greater part of yourself and living life to its fullest potential in harmony with your spirit, soul, and body. Falling in love with yourself I believe brings greater joy, peace, and balance to your life and a deeper connection to your Creator. (If you don’t believe in God and you’re an atheist, then fall in love with yourself solely for you.) If you believe in God, then falling in love with yourself only connects you more intimately to the one you pray to, the one you trust in and believe is your source- the one who formed you.

Way 1: Let go of the past. Even if it was just yesterday or if it happened in your childhood with no way of changing it and you never received that apology you longed for. LET IT GO. Write a letter to that bitch ass tragedy that tried to take you out... Burn that piece of sh!t paper and flush the ashes down the toilet. (Now I know that’s easier said than done and everyone’s timing is different but know that only you hold within you the power to get everything you ever wanted to achieve and feel.)

Way 2: Forgive yourself, first.  Then forgive them (if there is a them in your situation). And then discern wisely if your forgiveness should include continuing with them or if you need to cut ties once and for all. Don’t carry repeat offenders on your back or trailing your every move, when life, God, and experience have already shown you that they are not for you, and they deplete your life in ways you have yet to recover from. STOP the madness and let them go.

Way 3: Unplug from everyone and everything for at least an hour a day. Stop talking on the phone, repeating and telling the same stories with that same person. Because if you’re honest, what are you getting from those conversations but the same negative results? Spend one hour of your day, in either quiet solitude, writing in your journal, dancing by yourself, reading a book, walking, 1-hour road trip, watching your favorite show, or researching that thing you’ve always wanted to do but thought you couldn’t or would never be able to do; do anything that makes you feel good about yourself but do it by yourself. Invest in yourself, pour out time in yourself.

Way 4: Talk to the man/woman in the mirror. Mirror work is a great way to look yourself in the eye and say some truths to yourself that you need to hear and that you need to say. Believe it or not, these truths are holding you back from your highest potential, cause’ let’s face it, if you can’t be honest with yourself, then you definitely won’t be honest with anyone else, or you’ll be one of those people who can only see other people’s fault but not your own. (Believe it or not, some people struggle to look themselves in the eye.) Have a come to Jesus moment with yourself and tell-it, whatever -it is –tell-it, say -it, shout-it, cry -it, and when you’ve said what you needed to say… End your mirror session with “I love you unconditionally and I know everything is already working itself out.” (Mirror work is an ongoing process that should be applied as often as you need it.)

Way 5: Affirmations. The internet is full of affirmations or just write your own to fit your needs. “My life is good, and it is only getting better.” “Everything I need comes to me easily and effortlessly.” “I am open and receptive to the blessings and golden opportunities that the universe has for me now.” End your affirmations with “Thank you” and go about your business. (Affirmations are a daily practice. They are not a magic trick that gets you what you want, they are simply a physical reconstruction of your mental framework so that when your mind is flowing with thoughts aimlessly as our minds tend to do, your mind will be filled with positive thoughts and feelings more than the negative ones we have been programmed with over time. Because what you think and how you think and feel is what you will manifest. Period.)

Way 6: Treat yourself with a weekly facial. P.S: Men can do facials too. The facial that I’m talking about is a non-expensive home facial that you can either mix up yourself or purchase from your local stores in a singular packet. They’re easy but effective in simply giving your face a boost along with your self-esteem. Facial, nail shop, Top Golf, a movie… Just treat yourself to something you can afford that makes you feel good.

Way 7: Hug yourself. Kiss yourself. If you’ve got someone to hug you, fantastic! I love that for you. But even if you do have someone, do not neglect to give yourself compassionate, intentional hugs with a little squeeze of appreciation. Hmm, hmm good. Follow up your hug with a kiss to the back of your hands or blow yourself a kiss in the mirror. (I know, I know- what the heck am I talking about, right- but the method in the madness works like a charm- Try it for yourself).

Way 8: Pray for yourself first/with prayers of prosperity. God, there is so much to pray for, I don’t even know where to begin sometimes. Begin with yourself- first. And don’t just pray the usual mundane prayers. Pray for and speak words over yourself that defy human reasoning. Pray for the next big invention to come through you. Pray for elaborate out-of-the-box blessings that cannot be defined with human understanding. Pray for your money to grow beyond your spending. Bless yourself and your family with a prosperous life by using your words and doing it often and continuously.

Way 9: Be grateful. Gratefulness is one of the hidden keys to an abundant life. Be grateful for every little, big, tiny thing. Be grateful even when something doesn’t go your way. Be grateful for the people in your life, be grateful if you have a cold because at least it’s not the flu… Be grateful and feel grateful in your heart. FEEL IT and watch your life improve more and more every day.

Way 10: Tell yourself “I love you (insert your name) unconditionally” every day. For as much as you want and desire to hear it from others make sure you are always saying it to yourself.

Like everything else in life, consistency is the key. So, start at steps one to ten and repeat. To everyone reading this, I love you, bye.